Valentine's Day 2016:
Your love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me...
Your love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me!
(Lyrics by Jesus Culture).
Valentine's Day has rolled around once again, and for many it's a day best slept away. You see, for most people it's not romance, chocolate and flowers they desire; it's the committed love from a spouse they crave for validation.
It's hard being single in what feels like a world of couples...I know, from experience. This year is actually the first for me here on the blog where I have a 'valentine'...yet I appreciate my years of singleness which I haven't forgotten.
I know what it's like to desire a partner.
When I was single I knew that I had a choice. I could choose to be happy for others and content while waiting myself...or I could be like many others and settle for the wrong person. I admit my discernment was not always accurate and I made some mistakes along the way...but thank The Lord, I did learn from them!
I remember The Lord saying to me, 'Let go...Do you trust me? Let go', when I was clinging to something which was not His will for me and I knew, even as a Christian, I still had a choice to obey or not. So whenever something got too close which wasn't right for me, I knew I needed to let go...I got better and better at this with each success I had.
Yes, relationships or the desire for one can be an idol.
Each time I chose Jesus over a wrong relationship I could have possibly entered into I became stronger in Him, and better at hearing His voice...But I won't lie, it also hurt. I'd feel disappointed and lonely. It was then I'd push into Him and remember His LOVE never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me, and that there was nothing that could compare to His plan and will for my life.
His will was definitely worth waiting for.
When I announced my new relationship on social media there were some people who did not take the news so well and 'unfriended' me...I understood however, as it can be difficult for some to celebrate with someone else.
For those of you who may be waiting, I know it is hard!
Continue pressing into Jesus, and strengthen your Number One relationship so that you'll be a better person. Don't settle for being unyoked, or even for a Christian who treats you poorly.
It's natural for someone to desire committed love from a spouse, but it shouldn't be for validation.
Our value and worth should come from being a child of God through Jesus Christ. The desire for committed love from a spouse should be so that we can love them back as God does, everyday of our life within marriage. If you've had many failed relationships, I pray you know His love that never fails, never gives up and never runs out!
Let me leave you with Jesus Culture: